Saturday, March 9, 2013

Getting Back in the Groove

Friday, The Man and I officially ceased camping out on my mom and dad's property. Cloud Nine had been parked there since Daddy's accident in November, but the time had come to clear out. It was a bittersweet event for us all. 

Now that Daddy has been given the OK to bear weight on his foot, he and my mom feel as if they can take it from here, doing their best to adjust to this new normal, a normal that is still evolving and will continue to do so for some time.


Leaving them is never easy, but this time, seeing them waving from the porch, left me wrung out on the inside. By the time I got to the stop-sign, I was already reaching for the tissues in the backseat.


As I trailed behind Cloud Nine, I confess to having a mini-meltdown. The reasons are hard to explain. I was thrilled that they felt strong enough for us to go, but sad that Daddy’s walking is limited and painful. Of course, it is early, and it is to be expected (he has metal plates and screws holding it all together). While we pray and believe that he will be better, in time, who can say for sure? Such are the hardships in life, and, to be honest, I’m not moaning about it; I’ve been blessed with exceptionally healthy parents. It is a true miracle that he can walk at all! And we give God the glory!

It’s just that each year brings changes, sometimes hard changes, and there’s no crystal ball to see through. As I drove on, I ended up emptying a box of tissues and calling twin sister just to have someone listen to me blubber a bit.

But I’m okay. Truly. This uncertain season has reinforced my belief that each day offers gifts to be cherished, and I am bringing home so many sweet memories (gifts, if you will) of the days spent with my parents, memories that will stay in my heart always and forever.

And then there’s you. Not to sound like a broken record, but thank you so very much for your words of encouragement to me, during this trying time (you always know just what to say), and for your continued prayers for my parents. Dad's spirits have been low lately—just trying to come to terms with what is and what may be—but one thing is sure: His faith in God is unwavering, and so is mine. In sunny or stormy weather, God is our help and our strength.


As I write, the clouds have rolled in, and spring is all around—the remarkable coming of new life. 

Cloud 9 sits in the driveway. As for me, I haven't found my groove yet. I'm still a bit disoriented, getting used to the idea of really being home again. But if all goes as planned, the next few days will find us unloading and giving the RV a spring cleaning, top to bottom, inside and out, before putting it in storage again. And who knows? Maybe a pleasure trip is not far away. The subject has come up in recent conversations. I’ll be sure to keep you posted, as always.

Thanks, dear friends, for listening to my rambling, and for keeping me company here. You are such a blessing to me.


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47 comments:

  1. I've nothing original, or profound ... but just want to assure you of our continued prayers, Dayle. Every day is a gift!

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    1. Thanks, friend. I can think of nothing more profound than prayer. ♥

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  2. How hard it must be to leave your parents, yet a relief to be in your own home again. It's a strange turn of events when we feel a bit like the parent of our parents isn't it?

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    1. So true, Elizabeth. And it's tough on both children and parents.

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  3. I am crying right along with you. Life takes such unexpected twists and turns and a person can be perfectly healthy one day and down the next. My mind is not far from my own brother's passing and the joy of life that was his until just a few days before he died.
    You are blessed to have been such a big part of your Dad's recovery. It was a time for you to take care of him as he once took care of you. I know that God gave you many memories to treasure and hold onto in the coming years. You are a good daughter- xo Diana

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    1. Thank you, Diana. I'm grateful for the wonderful memories made.

      I'm so sorry about your brother. I can't imagine losing a sister.

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  4. Boy do I ever get every word of this! I am so glad you were in a position to be of such a help to your parents. I just know they were soo grateful and pleased to have you there. I will definitely continue to pray that his healing is complete and he will be able to get around without pain. Just think of all the memories you will have now to thumb through in your mind when you are missing them. Somewhere fun now sounds wonderful! HUGS

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    1. I know you can relate, Debbie. I think of you often and say a prayer for you and your mom. I'm grateful for the memories we made during this time, and I'm sure you are, as well.

      Thanks for the hugs!

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  5. What a blessing you have been to your precious parents!

    Here's hoping there is a pleasure trip for you in the near future.

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    1. Thanks, Dianne. It's been a blessing to me, and I'm grateful that The Man and I are at the point in our life when we were able to be there.

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  6. It is so hard when your parents are aging. You are a wonderful daughter and your parents are lucky to have your strength :-)

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    1. Thanks so much, Vicki. It is terribly difficult, watching parents slow down and need assistance. They've been my strength all of my life, and I was honored to do the same for them. I have two wonderful sisters who would've done the same thing if they could have.

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  7. I'm sure you were a great comfort to your parents by being there. For me, the hardest part is realizing that my parents are getting "old." Hard to see my dad slowing down, having a hard time hearing, just wanting to sit in his chair all day. In my mind, I always see them young, on the go, rushing out to the next square dance. It's hard, you know?

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    1. You said is so well, Kim. Seeing my dad slow down, following this accident, has been a hard thing to bear. So many children now find themselves facing this dilemma.

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  8. Good Sunday morning, dear Dayle....I'm almost ready to leave for church but read your post first. Now I have to dab my eyes with kleenix as tears filled them and came down. That goodbye must have been SO HARD. You are so right that you have special parents and your time with them has been well spent.

    It is my truest belief that God gives us those special days with our parents while they are still here.

    God bless each and every one of you, including your dear Daddy. Susan

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    1. Dear Susan ... you're just the sweetest. Thanks for your kind words. You have been a great encourager and I truly thank you, from my heart.

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  9. So glad to read that your Daddy is doing much better, though I'm sure a long recovery is still ahead. It's great that you were able to be there to help your parents out in this time. Leaving must have been hard, I'm sure.
    Look forward to hearing/reading about a pleasure trip. Even if I can't get away, it's always nice to follow along with someone else.
    Enjoy your Sunday,

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    1. Thanks, Jana. I'd love you to come along for the ride, should a pleasure trip be in the cards.

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  10. Thanks so much for visiting my blog, hopped over to pay you a visit and became your newest follower.
    Blessings to you and your sweet family,
    moni

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    1. Thanks so much, Moni. I discovered your blog a week or so back and am loving following along. You have a beautiful space.

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  11. I have always thought that parenting is hard, but being a child to help care for a parent is even harder. They are as lucky to have you as you are to have them. My father, who once was very active, has health issues that have made it difficult for him to walk...very frustrating for someone who was once so active. I understand your father's feelings.
    You need a VACATION dear. Find yourself some place fun and beautiful to go - even for a little trip. That is your homework assignment from this bossy teacher. :)

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    1. So sorry about your father slowing down. It is really hard on the children whenever that starts to happen. You feel so helpless.

      As for that vacation ... yes, ma'am! :)

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  12. You are blessed Dayle to be able to be there for your parents when they needed you. Enjoy this time since you never know what tomorrow brings!! We do have to make plans- but we have to also take each day as it comes beauase plans are always made to be broken!! God Speed!

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    1. Thanks, Suzan. I think plans have to be made with a light hand, for sure. What's the old saying, "If you want to make God laugh, just tell Him your plans." Things seldom work out according to plan, but it doesn't hurt to be prepared, should a miracle occur. :)

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  13. I well remember the times of leaving my husband's parents. Seeing them standing there waving brought tears each time. I prayed God will help you readjust to home and that your father will continue to improve.

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  14. Such a worry as our parents age. I know that you are happy to be home, and yet it is difficult knowing that your father is not completely healed. I hope he continues to get better.
    Hugs,
    Laura

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    1. Thanks, Laura. Life can change so quickly, but God is faithful through it all.

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  15. So understand your thoughts. I've got a new normal in my own life and there are some down times -- the last few days -- but more up days than not. So grateful for the friends and family that have stuck by me. Hugs to you!

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    1. Thanks so much, Carol. Adjustments are never easy, are they? Thank God for family and friends, amen.

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  16. Awww, so glad I got to read the post. Sounds like a difficult time. I remember the extended stay with my Mom after my Dad died. When I left, I was ready to go home, but I cried and cried. I knew it was going to be so difficult for my mom. We are praying your Dad will get his strength back and that the pain will go away. Glad you are home, but I know it is bittersweet.

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    1. Thanks, Anita. It's amazing how so many people share similar experiences. I know it had to be tough to leave your mom after your dad passed. Thanks so much for your thoughts and prayers.

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  17. I'm so glad to hear that he's able to bear weight on the foot. Praying for a full recovery so he can get out there and walk to his heart's content. What a blessing you are to your parents.

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  18. How nice to have your visit and comment so that I could find you here. I've spent some pleasant time looking around and learning a little more about you. You are to be commended for making that easy with your various tabs.

    And I see that I have found you in a special season where parents once more have become front and center. I have known something of this in recent years so I have an appreciation for your journey.

    I sure hope that I find you again, though you know that Blogdom is like The Yellow Wood. I did sign on to be a follower in hopes of returning one day.

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    1. I understand "The Yellow Wood" completely, Vee. Would love to see you back here anytime.

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  19. Hi.. It is so nice to meet you.. I have been exploring your blog and hopefully will do more as time goes on.. It seems we have a lot in common.. smile..
    God's grace and mercy for sure..

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  20. Your parents are precious...love the shot of them waving on the porch! Hopefully your dad will continue to improve even more! God is soooo good!!!
    Blessings,
    Cindy

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  21. Oh, I sooo understand!! My Mom is aging and it is effecting her memory and as much as we know these are the seasons of life....Well, it just does not make it any easier. So happy your Dad is getting better!

    Carol

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    1. Yes, Carol ... the seasons of life take us many places, don't they?

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  22. Hi Dayle, thanks for visiting my blog, it led me back here and I've been meandering around your posts. I was so touched by the photo of your parents. I remember having that achy feeling whenever I drove away from my grandfather and gazed at him in my rear view mirror. Those are such tender moments, and the older I've gotten the more I've come to think that life is really about adapting to loss in all its many forms. I'll be saying a special prayer for your Dad, I know it can be so hard to accept a weaker, more vulnerable body, especially at his age. At least that was my grandfather's experience.
    I enjoyed your post on writing too. And I can't imagine how I would feel if some man had kept a piece of my writing in his wallet as some kernel of hope. And then taken the time to share its impact years later. Wow. I think it would feel like I died and went to heaven :) That's some wonderful feedback about the power of your writing. I look forward to reading more of it.
    Leslie (Gwen Moss)

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    1. Leslie, how very kind of you to take the time to "meander" around my blog. Thanks for your generous words and for sharing the story of your grandfather. You said it so well: "Life is about adapting to loss in all its many forms." I read somewhere recently that life is a progression of farewells. Sounds a bit morbid, and I tend to look at the bright side of things, but, on so many levels, it is true.

      Thanks again for stopping by. I so enjoyed my visit to your blog and I will be back.

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  23. Some how I missed this post.

    My heart just ached for you as you drove away. I understand the part of leaving those you love. Yes, the seasons change. The weather season and the time of life season. Change, that's a hard word. I don't do it well.

    The collage of pictures is wonderful. Your parents are so blessed to have such a loving family!

    Welcome to the new normal. I hope you find your feet soon.

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