Monday, April 21, 2014

Monday Musings ~ About Sunday and Storms

It is Sunday evening as I write. The day has been painted with shades of spring and the sounds of Easter Sunday. As we made our way to church this morning, my lovely daughter and adorable step-grandson with us, I was captivated by the sun’s golden glow, and by the timbre of my daughter’s voice from the backseat as she spilled out story after story of what’s happening in her world these days. As always, in moments like these, my heart was filled to overflowing.

So many events through the years—deaths and divorces—have caused both my and The Man’s families to be a bit scattered. That disjointedness feels the most acute during holidays and special occasions. The loss of a family patriarch or matriarch, especially if that death came too soon or unexpected, jolts a family to the core. Sometimes they recover, and other times they drift apart and never seem to find their balance again. 

When brothers and sisters go through divorces, it not only breaks their family circle, destroying their common foundation, it also shakes the foundation of the entire family. Without warning, you are forced down a rocky path that you didn’t choose, forced to make changes that you didn’t want to make.

Nothing is ever the quite the same. You are never quite the same. In time, you move on—what choice do you have?—but such upheavals bring permanent changes. That’s what storms do. They alter the landscape of your life.

When all is said and done, life is made up of happy and sad notes; there’s no way around it. But it’s up to us to choose which melodies we will sing—the tunes made up of bleak and dark chords, or the ones that ring out in a crescendo of joy. As for me, I choose joy.


Speaking of my lovely daughter, she just recently purchased a new car. It's her first sedan and she is happy as a lark.

Until next time, dear friends, your visits here warm my heart and bring a smile to my face every single time.

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24 comments:

  1. Times like this make good friends seem even more like family. Treasuring people, no matter if they are blood relations or not is what grows important. You have a beautiful family . . . and a sporty blue car makes everyone happy! What a beautiful day you had.

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  2. Praying you have a blessed and beautiful week!

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  3. Families are the best....the glue that holds us together.
    Smiles, Dottie

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  4. Hello Dear Dayle...

    Yes, you are so right. Life is a series of ups and downs. I prefer to focus on the ups, too.

    So happy you enjoyed the holiday. It was wonderful and my heart is filled to the brim with gratitude.

    Take care and have a nice day today. Susan

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  5. You have a beautiful family. Your love for each one is so evident.

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  6. We've had those times in our family, too. It's so heartbreaking especially for the kids. I have aunts that were a part of my life for years and now I don't even know where they are. But, God is good and the things we learn are always for our benefit. I'm glad you had the chance to visit with your beautiful daughter and step-grandson. ;)

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  7. Your talent for so eloquently writing about anything amazes me. I love all the pictures you posted and especially those of Anna and her step-son. She's beautiful and her smile warms the heart. I'm glad your Easter was a happy one, sister friend.

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  8. Dayle...what great family photos...love your shoes! You are so right...holidays are the times when any sort of dysfunction in the family becomes most evident. Like you, I also choose to sing that joyful song...when it's all said and done...sometimes, though, it's after I have had a good cry.

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    1. Oh, yes Debby. I still have crying sessions occasionally, even after many years, but I think it's ok to do that. God gave us tears for a reason.

      Have a blessed week, my friend.

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  9. Dayle, thank you for this Beautiful graceful blog. This Easter was first time without a family member not by our choice & so your story so ministered to me personally. Thank you God Bless

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    1. I know what you mean, Carol. The tough part is missing those former family members who were like brothers and sisters or sons and daughters.

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  10. Life is full of these notes-- both beautifully melodic and some filled with dissonance. No one escape this tune. But yes, we can choose to hear and pay attention to the happy notes. Thank you for a lovely post.

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  11. A little teary-eyed now. I'm glad your Easter was a good one, dear sister. I know all too well the great losses brought about by divorce, and the life-altering ripples that never end. Hugs.

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  12. I just love the way you write, Dayle! It sounds like you had a lovely Easter with your family. So good to hear. :)

    Stephanie

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  13. sounds like you had a wonderful day of both remembering and treasuring.

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  14. OMG, I had the same thoughts this Easter. As we all sat around the table, so many changes, my Mom is 83 and I thought, what will it be like without the matriarch of the family? Yep, you have to go with the ebb and flow and enjoy the good times!

    Carol

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  15. Your sweet daughter looks just so cute and proud in front of her new car. I love it!!!
    You spoke volumes here today about divorce and death and what that does to a family unit. We have 4 grandchildren that we never see due to divorce and they live less than 4 miles from our home. It is just sad-sad that adults can't be adults and not involve the children in the bitterness that eats at their soul. You are right- it is life altering and changes the landscapes of our lives forever.
    I love your picture with your sweet hubby. He's a big guy- and I love that- you always think they can weather any storm and are a rock and an anchor in one's life.
    Blessings- hope you have a wonderful week- xo Diana

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  16. I'm with you, Dayle, for I choose joy.

    We're always an ocean apart from our dear loved ones, and when I hear that this one didn't even get together with that one, I think, Why not? You're so close. But for one reason or another, someone hadn't chosen joy.

    Lovely photos you shared today! I love The Man's awesome hair. And I'll take that top, skirt AND shoes you're wearing, please. And that beautiful daughter and sweetest step-grandson of yours? What treasures were yours to enjoy on Resurrection Sunday.

    Spiffy new ride! Congratulations! I remember that feeling: Grateful for each of God's blessings!

    Hugs and happy highways! Hope the folks are getting around well and smiling.
    Kelley~

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  17. You speak the truth, Dayle.
    I understand and agree so much about the death of the patriarch (or matriarch). I also understand about the divorce. I think that most families have gone through that. Those who haven't don't understand that in many ways it is like a death. It is, as you said, a change that you didn't choose.

    BTW, your daughter is as lovely as ever, and I DO like her car!

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  18. Back when I was a kid, extended family all lived so close by. Now, everyone is so scattered that it takes real effort to get family together. What used to be weekly visits now are annually, if we are lucky. Makes the times we are together that much more special. I'm in lock-step with you Dayle -- I choose Joy! Your family photos are beautiful!

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  19. i love to choose JOY! sometimes it is hard... but glad to know that is what you choose, too! an dit sounds like your easter was sweet!!!

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  20. Hi Dayle...I'm with you. I choose joy also. No matter what happens...good or bad...I choose joy. Great post. Love your dgt's car.She looks so happy. I wish her lots of fun with it and the mom part of me, prays for her to always be safe in it.

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  21. Dayle - Your posts are always so inspiring. Thank you.

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