Tuesday, June 8, 2010

The Gift of Unconditional Love

One of the many things I took for granted growing up was my parents’ unconditional love for me. No matter my behavior, no matter my actions, no matter how much I may have embarrassed them, or broke their hearts (and as a teenager, it was aplenty), they loved me. They were able to separate me, as their child, from my bad behavior. I never felt unloved for one minute of my life. Ever! Even during the spankings they occasionally rendered, I never felt unloved.

It wasn’t until years later, when I was older, and a mother, and could look back on things with a bit of wisdom, that I understood how deep and how unconditional their love for me really was, and what a gift they had given me. Not every child is so fortunate.

Children and teenagers need unconditional love. They need to know they can make mistakes and mess up and embarrass us, and even break our hearts, and it will be OK. We won’t stop loving them. We may not love or condone their behavior, and we may even have to ask them to leave our home, should the behavior become so obnoxious, but we will always love them.

I remember one time when my daughter was about three, I said to her, "There's nothing in the world you could ever do to make me stop loving you. Always remember that, sweetie." She got this puzzled look on her face. "Even if I killed you?" she asked incredulously, hands on hips. (Drama Queen, her middle name.) "Even if you killed me," I said. "I'd take my last breath loving my baby girl." It was funny at the time, but it's so very true.

My parents' unconditional love for me taught me to love unconditionally. And that's how God loves all of us. We may behave badly and break His heart, but He loves us no less. We're His kids! He may not love how we behave, but He will always love us! What comfort that brings.

Whether you're young or all grown up, if you have parents who love you unconditionally, consider yourself blessed.... and then return the favor to your children. It's a priceless gift.

This post is part of Emily's "Tuesdays Unwrapped" weekly series.


  1. And all the people said, "Amen".

  2. I am curious at what age our own children will acknowledge that unconditional love, even though in their hearts they have know it all along

  3. but the greatest of these is love... sweet post!

    Love the photo too! I so remember those soft pink curlers. And when they were removed, my mom would use the cat-tail comb to complete my long curls! :)

    A joy visiting with you!
    Kindly, ldh

  4. Thank you for that reminder. Yes, I know unconditional love from parents. I pray my children will always know I love them with that same kind of love every single day. So thankful God loves us that way.

  5. Very nice post and so very true. I was blessed with the same kind of parents. Thanks for sharing!
    p.s. I love the picture :)

  6. Such a wonderful post! I do have parents who still love me unconditionally, and we do the same for our children and grandchildren! I saw something on t.v. yesterday, about a family of 6 children who did not have that unconditional love. So tragic! Thank you for this post!

  7. i love the truth of this... i need the truth of this.

  8. How true it is. You know some of the things I've been through with my kids...and no matter what, I still love them.

    My parents too, have always loved me no matter what.

    Loved this post.

  9. Oh, my it is a priceless gift. A mother's love for her children is something so special. People without children often don't understand it.

  10. you were blessed. as you say , some of us were left wondering.

    but my children have it. Even if they killed me , as you say :)

  11. Great post and soooooo true. Those of us who have known unconditional love are blessed, indeed. Susan

  12. Amen. Love isn't worth much if it isn't unconditional.

  13. This is beautiful, Dayle.


  14. Beautiful! It is such a special gift to have parents that have taught you unconditional love. I am also blessed in that way! :)

  15. Sweet, sweet post! I hope to pass the same kind of love to my children! 8Blessings* Liberty

  16. Hi, Dayle, your childhood sounds a lot like mine. I have parents who gave me so much love & support & I thought that was the way it was in every family & then I found out differently when I grew up.

    Hope you enjoyed your beans & tomatoes too!

  17. You make a great point here, and that's the fact that so many of our children's opinions about God are influenced by how their parents treat them. If they're loved unconditionally by us, it's much easier for them to accept that God loves them the same way.

    Loved this post, Dayle.

  18. I loved this post -- it's SO true!


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