Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Catching up After 30 Years ~ Simple Pleasures

In a post a few weeks ago, I mentioned that The Man and I had plans to have dinner with a couple of friends of mine (Elmer and Fran) that I had only seen once (and only Elmer, briefly) in the last 30-something years. What I haven't told you is the rest of the story, to borrow a line from Paul Harvey.

Until August 7, 2011, it had been 30+ years since we sat down and ate a meal together. In the 70’s, our families hung out somewhere practically every week. And whenever we came together, laughter spilled out the door, and on at least one occasion, around the circle driveway. Our families' friendship ran deep and thick. As a young woman, and quite clueless, I spent some time working with Fran in an office environment. She was not only a mentor, but a great friend. We shared both laughter and tears. She knew a lot about life that I had yet to learn, and she helped me through some of the rough spots of growing up.

Words can’t express how wonderful it was to sit and share a meal and conversation with my dear friends, along with one of their lovely daughters and her family. The best part was we never missed a beat. After catching up on the happenings of the past 30+ years, it felt like we’d never been apart. That’s the beauty of old friendships. Some of my fondest memories revolve around this family. I love them and always will. Thanks, Elmer and Fran for the wonderful meal out, and for inviting us to your home after dinner. Let’s don,’t wait another 30 years to do it again.

Is there any greater pleasure than old friends who come together after three decades and find little has changed?


  1. That is the greatest thing about true friends...the shared memories. They're the family we would choose if we could and just like family the bond goes deep. So glad you had the chance to spend time with them.
    P.S. I'm celebrating my mother made me take typing in high school...otherwise it would take me about an hour to leave a comment!

  2. How wonderful to experience that, like no time passed. A sign of true friendship.

    Thanks for sharing and hosting as usual, Dayle.
    Much love.

  3. What a wonderful blessing to see each other again.

  4. Hi Dayle,

    We both have friends on our mind and in our hearts. Sweet post and thank you for hosting!

  5. How nice that you were able to get together again--and that it was just like old times! A wonderful simple pleasure! ~Karen

  6. What a wonderful visit. Special friends, indeed!

  7. I just love how we can catch up with friends we've not seen in years, where in heart - nothing has changed, but there is just so much to catch up on and share - the time flows with appreciation and laughter fills our body with pure joy!


  8. Old friends are the BEST! What an enormous comfort, I image for each of you!

  9. What a neat story! I love those friends that just pick right up with you without missing a beat. What a blessing!

  10. Dayle,
    I have two old friends like that and we get together in the summer as we live quite a distance from each other (one is from Virginia)so we make it a point to get to see each other and talk old times and EAT!! That's the best sharing over the dinner table. Glad you had some time with your old friends.


  11. Friends always whether you see them or not. Isn't that what true friendship is all about? Love this, Dayle.

  12. Old, cherished friends are such a blessing. At age 8 my Girl Scout troop went to Canada to meet a troop of Girl Guides. Ellen and I became friends. As the years went by, we would send one card at Christmas and catch up on the whole year and we only missed one year. One day, totally out of the blue, a car pulled into the driveway, a women got out and when I did not know her she smiled and said, "I am so upset you don't know me after 30 years of being your pen pal". I was stunned, shocked and delighted. Every year after that she and her husband and my hubby and I met in Jan when they were in FL from Canada. Sadly she passed away several years ago, but oh what wonderful memories we had of those special vists. Blessings,

  13. Isn't it amazing how that happens?!
    Some friendships are so special that time and distance cannot dent them!
    What a wonderful blessing for you all to be able to catch up :-)
    So happy for you, Dayle!

  14. Dayle, I LOVE this post. It brought tears to my eyes, because I can SO relate. Actually my simple pleasure today is about friendship...a friend I've only seen for a total of 7 days in the last 13 years!!

    Besides that friend, though, I have a very dear friend from high school, whom I haven't seen for 30 years, and every time we talk on the phone, it's like we saw each other yesterday. I love that about old friendships.

    I'm rejoicing with you that you had an opportunity to spend time with your beloved friends.


  15. Friends truly are a simple pleasure! I'm watching an I Love Lucy episode right now where she joins a "Friends of the Friendless" club because she thinks everyone has forgotten her's hilarious even though I've seen it a million times:)

    This is my first time linking up to your party, thank you so much for hosting such a lovely theme:)

  16. Your words of love, spell out, the appreciation of your friendship. When it's a true and loving bond, time has no value.

  17. Dayle, One way I have always measured true friendships is knowing that when once we meet again, we pick up right where we left off. It seems you all did the same. Thank you for sharing, and for taking the time to host.

  18. Dayle I am so sorry for the mix up with my thumbnail! Hope I got it straightened out,this is what happens when you haven't blogged in a while. lol

  19. I would love to be around some old friends again

  20. your story makes me grin :) up until they moved to florida to be closer to us, my inlaws have celebrated christmas eve brunch with the same family for 30+ years. it was a big table included any of the kids & their kids who were in town, and any out of town guests that might have been passing thru. it was... a most special morning. the 1st year was hard for them... to be apart from it all, but i know they have stayed in touch.

    and we have friends like elmer & fran were to you... like a standing friday night date, pizza at one house or the other. oh how i hope that in 30 years we'll still be asking "what do you want on your pizza?!"

  21. Hi Dayle..there's nothing like reconnecting with a good friend and picking up where you left off. And it sounds like Fran is an amazing woman. I hope too you guys make it habit to meet and have fun together.


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