Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Seeking Quiet Solitude and Thank You

As I write, it is Monday. I cannot tell you why Mondays are the days when I crave quiet and solitude. Maybe they bring flashbacks of my working days, before I knew what the retired life was all about, when Mondays found me climbing the stairs to my office a little slower than the rest of the week, when lingering over morning coffee sometimes lasted until noon.

Whatever the reason, today was no different. I longed to have the house all to myself, without man or beast, without music or talk radio.

After pouring myself a cup of coffee, I did what I normally do in the mornings. I knelt down in my favorite place of prayer and opened my heart and emptied my soul to my Maker, the one who sees my faults and failures and knows my deep regrets. The one who understands me like no other. I always leave that familiar spot feeling safe and loved.

From there, I walked into my home office to finish up some reading from the night before, but The Man was already at his desk, on his side of the room, listening to favorite music compositions. The melodies sounded lovely, but I needed quiet, so I slipped outside, settled lightly on the bench just beyond the door, and found the air cool and thick, a mist suspended above the ground. Clearly a day for staying in warm socks and sweats and oversized flannel shirts.

While I sat observing the morning, I thought about this need for solitude, and I did my fair share of whining about my sometimes lack of it to my twin sister, via text messages. She, like me, thinks it’s a woman thing, that men seldom feel the need to be alone. And yet, as most women probably do, I often feel guilty for even wanting to spend time alone. I adore my husband and I wouldn’t want to experience life without him, but I have to agree with Anne Morrow Lindbergh when she wrote: “Certain springs are tapped only when we are alone.”

As a writer, solitude is crucial for me, but I'd be curious to know if that's how you feel. Do you need alone times? 

I realize this post seems to have no real point to it, but sometimes you just need to get things out there and off your chest.

Dear friends, do you know how grateful I am for you? Whether you’re one or many, the fact that you take time to stop by and read my words, and leave me your words in return, fills me with joy. I have so enjoyed reading your comments on my last post, the one about changing up the bedroom. I found it quite amusing that my two favorite looks (which I will now tell you are the 3rd and 4th photos from the aforementioned post) are the same ones that some of you felt were more "me" than the others. Even though I've not met many of you in the flesh, it appears you do know a few things about me, and that makes me smile. 

Until next time, always remember that your company makes my day richer and fuller and better in every possible way.


Linking up with
Lyli for Thought Provoking Thursday


  1. Wow this was a really sweet post! So well written! :-)


  2. I loved reading and re-reading AML's "Gifts From The Sea." I suggested it to my FORMER book club and they all hated it. Now that you mention it, among all those women, I was the only one I would guess liked being alone. Hmmm.

  3. After this whirlwind week of going, going, and going. I needed that solitude yesterday. I didn't get it, but I'm hoping a day in the near future will provide that comfort. And since I've been so busy I missed your last post. I'll go back and read it now. Enjoy your day. I hope you'll find time to do something you love.

  4. Yes, I have to have alone time. For me, that means no tv, music, or any noise. Hubby works in an office behind our house, so it's no problem to have time alone with no one in the house.

  5. I value my alone time. I think it comes from my years growing up as a child who thrived on 'alone time'. It was safety to me. If someone wants to understand me, they must know alone time is necessary. I love it when my husband is home, but also enjoy when we have time apart.

  6. As you know, twin sister, I live alone, so I am never in need of solitude, but I do enjoy mine most of the time.

  7. I definitely relate to you and your need for alone time. I need a daily dose of quiet and solitude.

  8. I do relate to the need for alone time. I'm currently getting a bit more than I would like with my husband gone but there are still times I welcome the peace that comes with it.
    I'm thinking I missed your post on changing up your bedroom so I'm headed on over. So grateful we have connected in this blogging world as it is always a delight to come visit you here. :)

  9. I'm an introvert and so is my spouse, and we both need time alone to recharge.

  10. I so cherish my alone time too. After my husband lost his long-time job and was laid off for 18 months, I about went cray-cray...yes, I love the man but having him under foot constantly was not a good thing. The Lord then blessed him with a job he adores (caring for special needs men in a group home) and his schedule allows me to have quite a lot of time to myself...actually a few days in a row. Like you, I need that time to connect to God...through prayer, through tears... or just having conversations outloud with Him. My dogs sometimes think I am talking to them...lol. This was a great post, Dayle.

  11. What a lovely post. I crave alone time on a daily basis. It allows me to recharge and plan. It also is my time to get my creative juices flowing. That is not something I can do when surrounded by distractions. xo Laura

  12. I desperately need alone time - and with my husband retired, sometimes it's hard to find. And, in the hectic last few weeks, I have been overcome with a need for solitude. I just need to hear the voice of Jesus...

    It's probably why I've been feeling a bit *blah* lately...


  13. I want to sit on that bench. What a pretty spot!

    You know, Jesus got alone each morning. I think our souls need solitude to recharge and remember we are His.

    Thanks for linking up at Thought-Provoking Thursday! :)

  14. Yes, yes, yes! I do need my alone time! My husband and I are now both home all day. My son comes home from school at three. There are not many times that I am alone in the house, but I love it when I am. Not, as you say, that I would want this for more than a short period of time, but sure is sweet when I get the opportunity!

  15. I am so glad you stopped by Heart Choices and left me a comment so I could find you. I am with you on this. I need solitude at times. All day is spent with little children at my work and weekends are for family. But there are times when I just need to be alone. That's why I wake up very early before anyone else is awake and spend time with the Lord. It helps me tremendously.

    Blessings and love,


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